Singing Your Song

Finding your own unique contribution in the world is an essential part of leading a healthy life and a first practical steps towards a life of personal flourishing and meaningful contribution.

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We all have a song

You are one in 7 billion. Your combination of perspective, passions and talents is not replicated anywhere else. You have a song that is uniquely yours to sing. This contribution can be brought by no one else but you, and if not, it will remain forever unsung.

Bringing your song is an essential function of a healthy life. Just like every other form of life, we humans need to express ourselves fully, and we only come fully alive when we do so. Just like flowers blooming, birds singing or ants . . . doing what ants, and only ants, can do.

Your true song, authentically sung, serves as a compliment to the flourishing of all life. The natural world is a magnificent harmony of all life forms bringing their gift into the whole. Picture a rainforest buzzing with insects, trees, birds, mammals, plants and more, each serving their own purpose. We humans are no exception: our true song, authentically sung, will serve all of life. And that makes it sacred work, to search for the song and the courage to sing it loud and clear.

Some years ago, I too, was crying out for clarity, searching for my way forward. I sensed there was something else I had to do and I knew that might require me changing my job. This was no small beer! It was a job that had invited me to move continents, helped me express my dep love for this world in practical ways and rewarded me with a deep sense of fulfillment. Moving on from that was a big step, and to where? To what?

I was beginning to explore what might be next. But there was no clarity. I decided to take my quest into the ceremony on the high mesa of New Mexico.

Midnight in the white light of a full moon
wrapped in a blanket,
“Great Spirit, show me what’s mine to do”
the prayer on my lips. 
But the voice in my head
sounded oh-so-much like my long-held dream
repeating itself.
In desperation I cried out to the moon
“Is that you, or is that me . . . again?”

Where were the signposts in my quest? I could only hear familiar themes playing over on my mind. I was hoping for a clearer, new and distinct message. But did I really need one?

Sometimes the process of finding our song is the eventual acceptance of our instincts, the final recognition that our thoughts are actually a deeper knowing and the messages we have been receiving from the world are true and actionable.

On the hill I decided to ask for a sign to help me know if my ever-repeating thoughts were accurate, or not.

That was when, and I kid you not,
the butterfly landed not once,
but three times on my chest and began her slow ascent to settle on my lips.

Our conversation was short, sufficient to bless my dream as heaven-sent
and she disappeared into the night.

Astonishing, miraculous! Here was an unmistakable sign that the dreams I had harbored over long years were pointing me at the song I was born to sing. A sign that seemed to promise, in the kiss of a butterfly, that the universe had my back.

It may be that you already know your song, you may be already be singing it, maybe even blessed to be paid for it. Congratulations. Let this be a vitalizing force in your life. Treat it as sacred. Be grateful for the blessing it is to know what is yours to do. Then play full out.

So where is our song to be found?

Start the search is by asking yourself 3 questions;

1. What do you love?

Doing what we love ensures we bring our passion into play. Maybe, like me, you were schooled that doing what we love is somehow bad, or self-indulgent. I encourage you to put those thoughts aside. There are few more powerful forces than passion to mobilize us, and few more unstoppable forces than a person possessed of passion.

2. What  do you do well ?

Of course we want to be in action with what we do well; our skills and capabilities, our vision of what’s possible, our gifts. You might already know these, from previous success, or feedback from others. And sometimes these capacities are lurking unseen in plain sight. This may be particularly true for those who’s gifts are in the interpersonal realm; being a great listener and counselor, or caring for other people are not often certificated or recognized skills, but may be what you do oh-so-well. Only a tiny fraction of songs are sung on a stage or in a significantly visible way: parenting, caring and nursing are just some of the roles that seem auxiliary but lie at the heart of healthy community.

3. What does the world need?

The third element of our song, what the world needs, is maybe the most easily over-looked. After all, western culture encourages us to pursue personal success without consideration for the impact this has on the wider world. But the idea that a harmonious society can arise from each of us acting only in our own self-interest doesn’t seem to be working for us right now. There’s no right answer to what the world needs, but a good test is the question “does this support all of life?” That requires us to ask how our contribution may be viewed by our grandchildren, how it affects our precious planet and how it serves to foster peace in our own hearts and justice in the world.

The confluence of these three forces, passion, capability and need, is the sweet spot. This simple worksheet just might help you locate it!

Once we are clear, and committed not only does our own personal power come into play, but other forces too. 

". . . the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way."
- W.H. Murray

So let’s get clear, new possibilities will emerge. The pain of regret, unfulfillment and disconnection will recede. The prize of feeling on-song, fulfilled and flowing will replace it. 

This blog in a nutshell

•   You have a unique song to sing

•   Singing it is key to your flourishing, just as the converse is true . . .

•   Resisting your song will constrict your life force

•   An authentic song serves all of life, which means . . .

•   A song that doesn’t serve all of life is not your authentic song

•   Finding and singing your song is sacred work

Should you know, from the kiss of fate,
that you have vision, gifts or a life that is heaven-sent,
let this story save you pain
and begin now
to finally sing your song.
— From Butterfly Kiss, Jon Symes


Support for your Next Steps

1. Download the worksheet (with the link above) to help you begin to find your own authentic song

2. For inspiration, read & listen to the full poem, Butterfly Kiss

3. If you are interested in a guided journey of exploration you may like to know Jon will launching an enquiry group later this year. Please add your name to the wait list for new offerings using the form here.

4. Book a complimentary call with Jon to explore these themes of finding and singing your own song. Please send Jon your details using the form here